In-person Dates
"Intimacy is not purely physical. It's the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul." — Reshall Varsos
I prefer starting our time together with one or two casual or fun video chats to get to know each other and see if we click before meeting in person. I enjoy getting to know people socially first. Exploring new places together or you showing me places you know has always been very meaningful to me.
If we spend at least two social dates together and I feel comfortable, I will consider moving things to a more inclusive level. When that happens, I’ll share the password for my Inclusive Dates page. Only a few special people get to know me closely. Will you be one of them?
I will always give my full attention, awareness, and maturity when we're together. I prefer longer, ongoing connections, but no matter what kind of time we spend, I look forward to meeting you with kindness, honesty, fun, and presence.
Here’s some social date ideas for you to consider…
A Day Odyssey — A day golfing, a long hike, then dinner and a concert or club (~6 hours - $500)
A Short Exploration — Exploring a Museum or gallery, dinner and a movie, wine tasting, or a casino trip (~4 hours - $350)
Wanderings — Exploring a neighborhood, a relaxed bike ride, or a friendly game of pickleball to build an appetite, then lunch or dinner (~3 hours - $275)
Lingering — A relaxed lunch or dinner (up to 2 hours - $200)
Each additional hour — $100
For established friends:
Friday evening thru Sunday Afternoon (up to 36 hours) — $2,600
Up to 24 hours — $1,800
Up to 15 hours — $1,000
Longer-term Experiences — $1,800 (first 24 hours) + $900 for each additional 24 hours — 5 day maximum
Please see the Scheduling, Travel & Hospitality sections below for more information regarding the additional consideration requested for experiences outside the upper Midwest.
PLEASE NOTE: Prior screening is required for all in-person dates. Each of these encounters should include only public, social experiences.
Your investment is only for my time and companionship. Nothing more is expected or implied.
SCHEDULING
I live in the rural upper Midwest United States, surrounded by beautiful lakes, streams, parks, and the mighty Mississippi River. I love to travel, and meetings outside the region (including DMTY and FMTY) are fun and exciting, but take more time to plan!
From Fall through Spring, with few exceptions, I am only available to meet you on weekends with at least two weeks notice. But don’t despair! My summer availability is much more flexible.
Please just be patient getting things scheduled as we plan our time together. I’ll try to make it worth your while, I promise!
I’m also very happy to tentatively schedule a month or two in advance if that’s what you prefer.
TRAVEL
Travel outside the upper Midwest may incur additional consideration. All travel requires airfare (First-Class, Business, or Coach Upgrade flights) and/or ground transportation. I organize all my own travel and hotel arrangements. All details will be discussed/agreed upon after verification but before receipt of deposit.
Example “Drive Me to You” Additional Time & Mileage Consideration
Madison, WI, Minneapolis, MN — 4 hour minimum engagement +$ 100 travel time allowance
Green Bay, WI, Milwaukee, WI — 5 hour minimum engagement + $200 travel time allowance
Chicago, IL, St. Louis, MO — 6 hour minimum engagement + $300 travel time allowance (may also incur airfare in addition to travel time depending on time requirements)
Example “Fly Me To You” Minimum Time Together & Additional Travel Time Allowance (excluding transportation expenses)
Central United States — 6 hour minimum engagement +$600 travel time allowance in addition to airfare
East Coast, Southeast US, or Mountain/Western time zone — 8 hour minimum engagement +$800 travel time allowance in addition to airfare
International — 24 hour minimum engagement +$1,000 travel time allowance in addition to airfare
HOSPITALITY
I organize all my own hotel arrangements.
Times we are together between 3 hours and 5 hours should include a meal.
Times we are together between 6 and 12 hours should include 1-2 meals (depending on how hungry we are!)
If our time together ends after 11pm, if requested, please plan on providing separate 4/5-star hotel accommodations. However, meeting for breakfast the next morning would be great!
For times we are together for 12 hours or longer, please plan on providing separate 4/5-star hotel accommodations, 2 hours of personal time each day, and at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep time each night.
DEPOSITS
Your total investment will be provided to you prior to confirming our meeting and after verification. A deposit equal to 25% of your time investment plus 100% of travel and accommodation expenses is requested that may be paid through CashApp, or Venmo. The remaining investment is required in US dollars at the time of our engagement for new clients. If discussed beforehand, electronic funds may be accepted for returning clients.
FMTY and extended time together requires a 50% deposit and all travel/hospitality expenses paid beforehand with the balance due in US dollars on arrival.
CANCELLATIONS
48+ hours — entire deposit applied toward a future meeting
24-48 hours — 50% of deposit applied toward a future meeting
8-24 hours — forfeit deposit
Less than 8 hours — forfeit deposit AND pay 50% of the remaining amount
Fail to notify, or notify at/after date start time — forfeit deposit AND pay the entire remaining amount